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June 8, 2008




Journal Entry: Sun Jun 8, 2008, 7:48 PM
So much has happened in the last ten days that it reads more like a screenplay than a journal entry.

If I typed it all up it would be as long as one also so, I'm going to have to summarize some life and death moments to prevent any "to long, didn't read" responses.:) I hope it doesn't seem too callous.
Ten days ago my father passed away suddenly.I flew from L.A. to Wisconsin to meet my Uncle and sister to drive up to Michigan for the funeral.We wanted to console our poor grandmother,my father was the third son she has lost to alcoholism.The next day we drove back to Wisconsin spent time with old friends.
On the flight back home,my sister and I talked of many things including weddings,family and funerals.  I never had wanted to get married. I felt it was a sham. The person you marry today might be completely different in a few years. I believe in living one day at a time. My boyfriend of 6 years wanted to get married,  I said it is archaic and unnecessary. I planned on living my life with him, watching others getting married and divorced, married and divorced.
  Then,my sister (someone who's marriage to her wife is not recognized in most states)said something that  struck me."When you marry someone it is not just them you are making part of your life, but their family. I think the idea of family scares you" She was right,I was afraid to take any risks to make deep friendships.I decided then I was going to ask my boyfriend the very next day to marry me. It has been wonderful so far so why not make him family.He said yes.
  After that, we drove 4 hours to Las Vegas to have Elvis marry us.The ceremony took 15 minutes and cost $250.00. It was fun, stress free and painless.Everything just fell into place including the date-6/7/08. I know dad would have been proud to have Shaun as his son- in-law.

Thanks you to all who wished us well- Sincerely Nichol Absher :boogie:
  • Mood: dA Love
  • Listening to: KCRW again!
  • Reading: Bust magazine
  • Watching: z-brush tutorials
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AngryPotato Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2008  Professional Digital Artist
a wedding and a funeral...sorry for your loss...but i hope your new fancy man and yourself have a wonderful life together ^_^
artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2008
thank you potato!
chrislazzer Featured By Owner Jun 20, 2008
that's awesome! and sad at the same time... sorry to hear about your dad, but congrats to you and your Shaunie!

hell hath frozeth over...

now get back to makin' art! i haven't seen anything new up here in some time!

artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 20, 2008
thank you... and I know I know got to put up more art. I make art every day all day, I juat can't show any of it. I have tons of figure drawings too but I think people might be bored of that kind of stuff.
MikePMitchell Featured By Owner Jun 11, 2008
awesome! quick marriages are the best! Lauren and I went to City Hall in San Francisco, was a great choice! (Elvis would have been awesome!)

I wish you guys all the best!
Sukeile Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2008
Wow, that really does sound like a screenplay.
I'm sorry about your father.
But congratulations on your marrige! I wish you and your new husband all happiness!
piratejack Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008  Student Traditional Artist
haha awesome. thats really good to hear, i kinda know how you could feel that way about marriage.
zyphryus Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008
Wow... that IS intense!! o.O
again, very sorry to hear about your father, and I wish your family strength for this time...
I had another friend who lost a brother a week ago due to the same reasons.

and... I wish happiness to you and your husband -
I did not like the idea of marriage either, and neither did my bf, but we decided that we finally found the right person, so we've agreed to do it someday too. (but the word is only partially out.)
artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008
he makes me laugh so much, even if it doesn't work out we will have a great time in between
znow-white Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008
I'm sorry to hear about your father,but really happy for you guys to taking this step.I wish you all the best for the future with your family :hug:
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