So much has happened in the last ten days that it reads more like a screenplay than a journal entry.
If I typed it all up it would be as long as one also so, I'm going to have to summarize some life and death moments to prevent any "to long, didn't read" responses.
I hope it doesn't seem too callous.
Ten days ago my father passed away suddenly.I flew from L.A. to Wisconsin to meet my Uncle and sister to drive up to Michigan for the funeral.We wanted to console our poor grandmother,my father was the third son she has lost to alcoholism.The next day we drove back to Wisconsin spent time with old friends.
On the flight back home,my sister and I talked of many things including weddings,family and funerals. I never had wanted to get married. I felt it was a sham. The person you marry today might be completely different in a few years. I believe in living one day at a time. My boyfriend of 6 years wanted to get married, I said it is archaic and unnecessary. I planned on living my life with him, watching others getting married and divorced, married and divorced.
Then,my sister (someone who's marriage to her wife is not recognized in most states)said something that struck me."When you marry someone it is not just them you are making part of your life, but their family. I think the idea of family scares you" She was right,I was afraid to take any risks to make deep friendships.I decided then I was going to ask my boyfriend the very next day to marry me. It has been wonderful so far so why not make him family.He said yes.
After that, we drove 4 hours to Las Vegas to have Elvis marry us.The ceremony took 15 minutes and cost $250.00. It was fun, stress free and painless.Everything just fell into place including the date-6/7/08. I know dad would have been proud to have Shaun as his son- in-law.
Thanks you to all who wished us well- Sincerely Nichol Absher