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Journal Entry: Sun Jun 8, 2008, 7:48 PM
So much has happened in the last ten days that it reads more like a screenplay than a journal entry.

If I typed it all up it would be as long as one also so, I'm going to have to summarize some life and death moments to prevent any "to long, didn't read" responses.:) I hope it doesn't seem too callous.
           
Ten days ago my father passed away suddenly.I flew from L.A. to Wisconsin to meet my Uncle and sister to drive up to Michigan for the funeral.We wanted to console our poor grandmother,my father was the third son she has lost to alcoholism.The next day we drove back to Wisconsin spent time with old friends.
       
On the flight back home,my sister and I talked of many things including weddings,family and funerals.  I never had wanted to get married. I felt it was a sham. The person you marry today might be completely different in a few years. I believe in living one day at a time. My boyfriend of 6 years wanted to get married,  I said it is archaic and unnecessary. I planned on living my life with him, watching others getting married and divorced, married and divorced.
     
  Then,my sister (someone who's marriage to her wife is not recognized in most states)said something that  struck me."When you marry someone it is not just them you are making part of your life, but their family. I think the idea of family scares you" She was right,I was afraid to take any risks to make deep friendships.I decided then I was going to ask my boyfriend the very next day to marry me. It has been wonderful so far so why not make him family.He said yes.
           
  After that, we drove 4 hours to Las Vegas to have Elvis marry us.The ceremony took 15 minutes and cost $250.00. It was fun, stress free and painless.Everything just fell into place including the date-6/7/08. I know dad would have been proud to have Shaun as his son- in-law.

Thanks you to all who wished us well- Sincerely Nichol Absher :boogie:
  • Mood: dA Love
  • Listening to: KCRW again!
  • Reading: Bust magazine
  • Watching: z-brush tutorials
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AngryPotato Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2008  Professional Digital Artist
a wedding and a funeral...sorry for your loss...but i hope your new fancy man and yourself have a wonderful life together ^_^
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artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2008
thank you potato!
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chrislazzer Featured By Owner Jun 20, 2008
that's awesome! and sad at the same time... sorry to hear about your dad, but congrats to you and your Shaunie!

hell hath frozeth over...

now get back to makin' art! i haven't seen anything new up here in some time!

xxxxxooooo
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artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 20, 2008
thank you... and I know I know got to put up more art. I make art every day all day, I juat can't show any of it. I have tons of figure drawings too but I think people might be bored of that kind of stuff.
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MikePMitchell Featured By Owner Jun 11, 2008
awesome! quick marriages are the best! Lauren and I went to City Hall in San Francisco, was a great choice! (Elvis would have been awesome!)

I wish you guys all the best!
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Sukeile Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2008
Wow, that really does sound like a screenplay.
I'm sorry about your father.
But congratulations on your marrige! I wish you and your new husband all happiness!
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piratejack Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008  Student Traditional Artist
haha awesome. thats really good to hear, i kinda know how you could feel that way about marriage.
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zyphryus Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008
Wow... that IS intense!! o.O
again, very sorry to hear about your father, and I wish your family strength for this time...
I had another friend who lost a brother a week ago due to the same reasons.

and... I wish happiness to you and your husband -
I did not like the idea of marriage either, and neither did my bf, but we decided that we finally found the right person, so we've agreed to do it someday too. (but the word is only partially out.)
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artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008
he makes me laugh so much, even if it doesn't work out we will have a great time in between
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znow-white Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008
I'm sorry to hear about your father,but really happy for you guys to taking this step.I wish you all the best for the future with your family :hug:
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lolly Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2008
I'm so happy for you. I told everyone at the office about it, probably more times than they wanted to hear :laughing: And it looks like you wussed out and didn't go with the Abnorm last name :cries:

As for what Natalie said "When you marry someone it is not just them you are making part of your life, but their family. I think the idea of family scares you"

She says some wise shit there yo! :aww:
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artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008
Nat's a teacher now- guess she taught her big sis a thing or two
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Moonbeam13 Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2008  Hobbyist Photographer
I'm so excited for you guys and I'll be back there in a couple of weeks to buy you crazy kids some drinks :)

:heart:

Lots of love!
Danie
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artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2008
hooray
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Moonbeam13 Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008  Hobbyist Photographer
you must be a bit brain dead after all of this :hug:
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Saint-Juniper Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2008  Hobbyist General Artist
it sounds like you've had some big life changing moments all at once, im sorry for your father, and im happy to hear your that your happy in your relationship- i wish your sister had the same opportunity as you legally, whether you believe in marriage or not i think that its everyones right - equally.

i think as a person who lives in the moment and believes in change- who is married also- that if your in the right state of mind its no different then a committed relationship but marriage comes with papers, and government benefits! you learn to live with the extra people as you go :P

well sorry for the tl; dr reply: im sorry for your loss but happy for your happiness!
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artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2008
looks like we are on the same page! thanks for taking the time to read my journal. I've been seeing more examples of healthy marriages now that I took of the I hate marriage glasses
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GrayBann Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2008  Hobbyist General Artist
I hope everything works out for you. I m never one that is good in these situations, but I felt as if I had to say something. If not for you then for me. Marriage can be a beautiful thing if both parties are truly committed to it. I am a firm believer that in most cases marriages end more because they were entered into for the wrong reasons to begin with. I hope that you find happiness and this, as a good thing, lasts forever.
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artqueen23 Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2008
thank you
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GrayBann Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2008  Hobbyist General Artist
No prob. Looking forward to addind more of your deviations to my fav list.
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